30 June, 2021
Dip your fingers into the pie
THE Collins dictionary definition of a sexpert is “a person who professes a knowledge of sexual matters”. By Malibu
In my role operating an adult shop ‘The Diva’s
Den, for over a decade now I have definitely been
acquiring quite a broad knowledge of all things
sexual, hence my use of the word as a job description.
There is not a lot that surprises me anymore,
and I sometimes tend to forget that not everybody
is as open-minded or exposed to the nitty, gritty,
adults only facets of people’s sexual health and
lifestylelife that I have become familiar with and
accustomed to on a daily basis.
It was therefore quite a shock to me when I had a newly acquired female friend casually tell me during a recent conversation that she had no clue where her clitoris was.
And not only that, but that
she has never had an orgasm!
Well you could have knocked me down with a
feather. Who would have guessed?
This woman is a 50yr old mother of two and
has been married for over 20 years, mind you!
Possibly the most shocking thing I’ve personally heard so far this year I think?
Then I got to wondering – are there other
women out there like my new buddy?
I suspect that there are and wonder how, in this
day and age, this could this even happen?
Our foresisters didn’t burn their bras for females to be left behind in the masturbation stakes
and we could all use a little more empowerment
– it is your right as a woman to orgasm and
shouldn’t purely be a male orientated goal when
engaging in sex.
Masturbation can always be your go-to back
up plan though.
It is not a crime and contrary to popular myth
it will not send you blind.
Old age will take care of the eyesight regard
In fact, it is one of the best forms of stress re- lease for a large percentage of the population and a great way to get familiar with your own body and its inner workings, for those of you who aren’t already clued up.
Self pleasure is a key element to gaining more confidence in your personal
intimate relationships as well.
So ladies, I beg you to let go of any preconceived ideas you may have regarding your sexual
needs not being a priority.
They are indeed to be
put on the ‘must urgently attend to’ list.
If you do not know where your clitoris is then
STOP whatever you are doing right now and
please do yourself a favour and go bloody find it. Seize the day. Without delay.
Go forth and masturbate, sisters. Make your orgasms a priority. You won’t regret it.