5 July, 2021
Do not worry, just be yourself
WHEN you decide to choose the career path of a stripper, adult entertainer or promotional model you really do open yourself up to a wide range of judgement and scrutiny from the broader public as well as perhaps from your nearest and dearest.
It is one of the more difficult aspects of the job and can adversely affect your ability to function outside of your employment, and enable you to live a happy, fulfilled day-to-day life.
Constantly being judged by people who have little to no understanding of who you are as a person and even less of an idea about the industry you work in is a tough aspect of the job.
For those of you that may not be aware, it might be a surprise for you to learn that strippers are mostly normal people just like YOU! We have hearts and feelings just like any other human being.
However, it is an integral trait we also must possess – along with physical beauty or the ability to perform physical feats and that is you MUST have a thick skin or will not fare very well here.
I guess, in this day and age having a thick skin can be helpful for most people, but I have compiled a list of a few other things that I have found to be beneficial when dealing with the ‘haters’ one comes across far too frequently.
Whether you are a topless waitress or a clothed one, these few points will apply equally to you. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough.
Take your stand, speak up and refuse to let others hurt you.
Throughout your lifetime some people will discredit you, disrespect you and treat you poorly for no apparent reason at all.
Don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. And don’t make any space in your heart to hate them.
You don’t have control over what others think about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalize their opinions.
Leave them to their own judgements. Let people love you for who you are, and not for who they want you to be.
Or let them walk away if they choose.
They can’t harm you either way; it’s their understanding that is faulty, not yours.
The bottom line is: Do whatever makes you feel good – and enjoy every minute of it!